How to Give a Man an Adult Massage
So, you want to be able to control and massage a man to the end, or, so to speak the happy ending. This is easy, if you know a few things. We do it every day in the massage rooms at Kings Court Massage the largest adult massage place in the whole of Australia. Who am I? Well I am big John the owner of Kings Court Massage and I know more about adult massage than anyone.
The first thing to do is give your-self a self-affirmation. A self-affirmation is an instruction you make to yourself. In this case you say to yourself, “I want this guy to have a really hard dick!” You are telling yourself to do the massage with a singular purpose. The purpose? To make his dick go very hard. If you don’t tell yourself that you want him to enjoy it by being hard, then you could find yourself just wanting to get him off which is what he could do himself.
I am saying that you need to care about how good it is for him. I am suggesting is that you look at him and think the self-affirmation and this will strengthen your inner self and it actually changes how your face and body language appears. He can see that you are willing and wanting to help him at a glance. Once this thought has formed strongly in your mind you will effortlessly begin to flirt and approve of him looking at your nakedness and approve of your touching him and doing the hard work that follows.
Your best thought process has to be, “I am here for one purpose and one purpose only, I want to get him harder than he has ever been before!” See Appendix A.
To do this at home you will need privacy, a shower, some towels and an area to work. A massage table in a small room is ideal but you may have to use something at hand. A piece of foam on the floor about 2m by 1.2m is ideal and you can cover it with a sheet preferably white. Lay out a rolled up towel for the head, a flat towel is the body towel and the half folded towel placed for the lower legs is call the foot towel. You place all this on the floor in a room with enough space for you to have your knees on the edge and your feet on the floor. However this lesson is given as if you have the sheet and towel arrangement on a proper massage table and you are massaging a customer at Kings Court who will love having this massage all the way to the happy ending.
At home you will need some dreamy forest music on a player and a baby bottle warmer for your hot oil. You need to be able to turn down the room lights or have a red lamp or a lamp with a red shade. You are looking for a dim red light so your skin will look at it’s very best naked. Place some tissues (open) next to your oil and later you will need a small jar of vitamin e cream. See Appendix B.
He needs to think you are able to do a legit massage, which you will call a “full body massage experience.” You need to have the upper hand and control so the event does not and cannot become sex. If it converts to sex before the happy ending you will have failed to give him the very powerful ending that can be achieved.
You begin by saying, “Have a nice warm shower. It will calm you down and your skin will absorb water which helps to make it flexible for the massage oil to glide over.” You should undress facing the man and put a towel on if you are going to walk him to the shower. If there is an opportunity, take your panties off and hide them under a towel so that when you disrobe he is not sure if you were wearing them when he first met you earlier. Men take particular notice of things like this and like to imagine things from such implications.
He will likely make a comment about your naked breasts as he wants to look but in politeness he needs to be invited to look. Cup your breasts and say, “Thank you, do you think so.” And look down. This gives him permission to have a look. Some men are quite polite and shy. Anyway it this is all part of the show and takes time. Think of time as anticipation.
After he has enjoyed a shower or a spa (he must shower before entering the spa) you say, “Lie on your tummy and we will begin.” You will begin to massage the area above the waist. Begin to massage by adding a little oil to your hands and doing a “getting to know you” run up and down the whole of his back. From this time you should have continuous contact with his body. If you take both hands off at the same time he will think you have gone away. See Appendix C.
You now simply pull the flesh from the opposite side of his body up towards yourself but not past the centre-line of his back and only work on the side further away from yourself. Make repeated strokes with your hands having the fingers slightly parted taking care to not scratch with your well-manicured fingernails. You should move up the body until, at the armpit, you take both hands and slide down the body to the waist just above the hip and start over again. Your body can accidentally bump against him so he knows you are naked. If you stand towards his hip and lean forward over him your breasts should sometimes glide over his back. He is not sure if this is a happy accident or you mean for it to happen. He may have to move his hips so his little creature has more room to stick out. Later, your bare skin touching him will be a strong satisfying part of the massage that he looks forward to. It does not actually get his dick any harder but it is a part of sex that is anticipated and is easily provided. One of our ladies recalled that when her bare breasts pressed against a man’s bare chest for his first time with her he said, “Wow, skin on skin really feels good!”
The procedure of moving up the body and taking both hands and sliding down the body to the waist is used as a base movement. Usually each base movement is done three times. Next, you begin to massage on the actual back. You do anti-clockwise circles with one hand along the back on the side further most away from you and in an upward movement until you reach the top near his neck and then slide down and begin again. An alternative to this is to make the anticlockwise circles with you right hand and wipe the left hand across the circle just before the next circle comes around. Pass up the back three times, then with your thumbs push along the spine on that same further away side with a hand over hand or thumb over thumb movement, also for three times. This then concludes one side and you keep moving one hand on his back and quietly move around to the other side. He will be surprised when your naked flesh brushes against him and he realizes that you have changed sides. You then do it all the same massage again, but still rotate anti-clockwise if you are right handed. When doing small circles on the shoulder blade area you can double up by placing the fingers of your left hand on the back of the fingers of the right hand to provide a bit more pressure.
Well, now you can do a basic massage on the back and you have some idea about entertaining this guy, I will introduce the stuff that will allow you to get him there – Big Time! Any time you touch any part of his body which is on the under-side this sparks a sexual thought in his mind, so when you begin to draw up the flesh from the opposite side of his body towards yourself this is touching part of the underside and it has an effect on his mind. See Appendix D.
When you have massaged up to the arm you lean your left arm on the table for support and lean over and run your right hand along his arm towards the elbow and back along the other side a few times. That is, down the back of the arm and back along the front letting your fingers actually go around the arm and a bit under. This is a sliding motion and will put thoughts of other sliding motions into his mind. You then professionally run the same hand over his shoulder and down onto his front – the upper chest. You massage around next to his neck. This is very personal as it is on the underside as well.
The position of the left arm will appear to be technical but being close to his left shoulder with skin-to-skin contact the effect will not go un-noticed. You can actually lean on your forearm across his back over the shoulder blades as you do some massaging with the free hand. Your tits will be on his back and he will be wondering if this is by accident or intentional. See Appendix E.
Effleurage: Don’t know what it means but it has something to do with flushing toxins out of the flesh you have just been kneading. You place both hands across the waist as two rising suns with the fingers spread as wide as you can and take a firm hold and push all the flesh forward up towards the back of his head. Pause and now turn your fingertips into little hooks and slide back down to his waist. The hooks should just be the fingertips and not the fingernails. Repeat the procedure as always, three times. This action should be firm enough to make his body move forward a bit on the up stroke. This is also a way of signalling that you are the expert and in control.
The effleurage actually moves stuff you have released from the flesh into the bloodstream and this goes immediately to the brain and makes him quite sleepy and the sleepiness is kind of mesmerizing and helps you have control. After the final up stroke place your hands again as two rising suns and move down across the back to the waist but this time with many points of contact but barely touching. The movement should be slow but almost not touching. It will make the hairs on his back want to rise up. Some ladies use the tips of their fingernails.
You now take the damp towel he dried off after the shower. You use it to remove the bulk but not all of the oil from his back. You then place the towel long ways along his body. It is best if the towel is a bit damp as you then scrunch the towel forward onto him in little ridges so it becomes shorter in its length. There should be just enough to cover his posterior. You can push a bit of it accidentally between the cheeks of his bum. You then move down to his feet and lean over and slowly pull the towel towards yourself making sure it does not drape across the legs. The effect is that it slowly unfurls and feels like a caterpillar moving up his body as the ridges unfurl.
The legs and feet: Take one foot and lean it against your chest. Bend the ankle and lean one breast on the instep. This is an area of thin fine skin and it is quite a pleasing feeling for him. The down-wards pressure on the foot stretches the leg tendons. You lean forward and put a half handful of oil on the calf muscle at the rear of the leg. Running this oil over the leg is a sensual feeling and you need enough oil to do the whole lower leg and the foot. You now step back and take the foot in the palm of one hand placing your thumb in the instep. You can now rotate the lower leg easily and as you rotate it you push the other hand as a grip around the whole lower leg forward over the calf muscle. Be gentle as this can easily be painful as your hands are much stronger than some of the small muscles along the lower leg. You can turn the leg with the hand holding the foot and you can rotate the other hand doing the strokes and this process of rotation allows you to completely massage the whole lower leg.
The way to massage the feet is to hold the foot in both hands and use the thumbs to gently work on the sole. Be careful as you apply pressure, the foot is very sensitive. Your strokes can be sensual. The final step is to gently pull back on the foot and raise the knee off the table and place it down in a wider position. After you have done both feet and moved both knees out your victim will be feeling quite naked and vulnerable. He is totally exposed and he will be thinking all kinds of things.
So far this massage has only been on his back but you have done a lot of entertaining. It is good if you do a rub all over the his back so that the back area warms up and remembers your touch.
Thighs: Now we do the thighs. You begin between the knees with small circles on the inner knee joint closest to you, gently as it can hurt. You work along the inner thigh and up towards the top of the leg. Now instead of sliding down and starting again this time you move across to the nearest buttock and push forward up on the buttock, no need to go between. You may remember I suggested you push firmly to cause him to move a bit from the effleurage. Well, in this case you can realize that somewhere below this buttock you will be pushing his dick into the table he is lying on. Mmmm… very good. You then slide down the thigh to the inner knee and start again. You now lean over and do the outside of the other leg beginning at the knee also and move up onto the thigh; the longest muscles on the human body. The base circular stroke now becomes a long push stroke. When you get to the top you make a large circle of the buttock and slide down to repeat the usual three times and do the same on the other leg.
This next bit is more sexy. After again running your hands over all of his body from the top to the feet you now do a long leg effleurage. You create a circle grip with both hands around one ankle and push forward up his leg. You are attempting to cause all that is liquid to stay ahead of your hands all the way up until the back of your hand collides with his balls. You will need to adjust as you go across his knee and as you move up the thigh you have to attempt to have a circle around the leg. The top end of this action needs to be a bit fast the first time to add to an entertaining shock value. It is a bit of a surprise, but you then go back to the foot as if nothing happened and he will think that it was probably an accident bump. Don’t forget after three runs to then do another time almost not touching with that very sensual touch. Some ladies do this light touch with just their fingernails touching.
The next bit is even more sexy. The more sexy you make it the less he will think of touching you to make himself hard. Now, place yourself near his hips. Lean over and slide your fingers under the opposite side hip joint. The farther most side of his body from you. If you then lift just a bit he will automatically help by lifting that side of his body. At the same time you place one hand behind the opposite knee and lift it forward. The result is that he will move his leg forward into the supine position. That is, he will be lying face down with one knee forward and his hip up. You may have to ask him to move his knee up. This now leaves a space, which you will be able to exploit.
Standing behind his buttocks you are now in a position where he cannot get at you but you can make him quite horny by drawing your both hands towards you up his thigh. Lean right over and begin to massage the leg from the hip down to the knee. Slide both hands towards the knee along the front and back of the thigh together and drawback in a similar fashion to the effleurage used on the legs with one hand doing a long circle around his buttock. Do this a few times so it appears to be some legit massage procedure.
You now get a handful of hot oil and put your hand under his leg and straight up onto his dick. This will be a pleasant surprise! You should not do too much or for too long because we are not ready to create the happy ending yet. He is not in a position to touch you so you can spend some time doing this without actually engaging too closely with him. You now say “Okay, time to roll over,” as if nothing unusual has happened. It is good to now return to some kind of procedure. He may now wish to start some sexual manoeuvres so you now begin to massage the opposite side leg as this is less sexy for the moment. You do the same long forward strokes on the opposite side upper leg beginning at the knee and when you do the leg closer to you your slippery hand will slide up to his balls and then slip up to do a slow tour of the tummy area. The tummy should only be sightly caressed in a clockwise motion. This is the only time you go clockwise as the intestine below the surface is somehow coiled in that direction and it feels odd if you go the other way. The area where the leg joins the torso contains many nerves and also the blood vessels that travel to the legs so be gentle and you will find that your soft caressing movements will be quite pleasurable to him. Slide down and repeat the procedure a couple more times. After the last time you can now simply slide straight up to his chest. Do not oil up the chest as the circle action will twist the hairs into knots. When doing the chest make chairs with your hands and massage the flesh in small circles with the strength of your finger-tips only. (Not using oil.) It is a good time to remark how much you admire men’s bodies. “Do you work out?” “Did you work out when you were younger?” “Men have such great muscles!” "I love the feel of men's bodies." etc…
Either before or after you do the chest you can take one hand and extend the arm so you support his elbow. You begin to massage under the arm but above the elbow. You now step back and massage around the elbow and then slowly along the forearm. As you step back his hand now comes down your chest and has to cross your breast. This is a pleasant surprise for him and you can allow him to fondle you or you can hold the elbow up and move forward so he just has a big handful of tit. As you press forward he cannot actually move much. You then move all the way back and massage the front and back of the hand with both your hands. You press the thumbs into the palm and feel the bones on the back of his hand with your fingers. The other hand is done later from the other side.
A nice thing to do at this point involves Vitamin E cream. See Appendix B.
Some girls at this stage then go above his head and lean over him and do some massage on the chest. This places the breasts quite within reach of his face and may even bump him a little. You then move around to the side you best favour to do the last part. Choose your right hand or left as it would be preferred. You have to work this out in advance. Usually works best if the hand you use has the thumb on the side away from his feet. This allows your fingers to slide up and down the lower side of his dick.
The last time you allow him to touch your breasts should be while you are beginning to touch his dick. This allows him to become quite hard. You should now move down to opposite his dick and place his hand on your hip so you can have both hands on his dick and he is no longer touching your breasts. Using hot oil you can now do the last part. Some tips on how to do the last part are not included yet.
The best advice to give a massaging person or for sex in general is “Learn to feel what the other person is feeling.
APENDIX A:
Your best thought process has to be, “I am here for one purpose and one purpose only, to get him harder than ever before. I have to want it to happen!”
A variant of this is that you need to deal with your sub-conscious mind. It is not good if you are willing to do the hand-job but not use the power of the self-affirmation so that your mind agrees to do the job at hand. Without the self-affirmation your inner self is saying, “It’s his dick and it is up to him to make it hard.”
At Kings Court we know that men cannot get a good result with an ejaculation when there is no push provided by another party. In this case it is you . . . a red blooded woman on the job to take control and provide something he thinks is wonderful..
Men like to take charge and become the action man in the actual process of having sex. This leads women in close personal relations with men to not realize that men can have much better sex when the woman controls the push to have the dick go hard. If his hardness is in the woman’s control the hand job result can be better than sex and he will really have a wobble in his knees.
Any woman who can come to understand the importance of getting her own consent working will get him really hard and want him to be really hard. You can then have him completely reliant on your wanting that one aspect of his life. If you can do this one simple mind exercise of wanting him to be hard you then become the one he needs again and again. You will enter his mind in a satisfying way and become more beautiful than the reality that you already are. This is the strength that binds men to women in older age. They become accustomed to the one source of inner strength and the habit carries over into the ages. Sex isn’t everything but without it there is nothing!
Remember: A man cannot make own his dick nearly as hard as a woman can make it. Women need to get beyond the idea that, "It’s his dick so it’s his problem" or "It is always hard so I don't see what his problem is?" I repeat; a man cannot make it as hard as a willing woman can and a willing woman can own the dick and the man attached to it! But a woman with no commitment to this unique aspect of life is worse than no woman at all and she is only bound for sadness in the long run.
APPENDIX B:
Vitamin E cream is a nice soft cream. It is cool to touch and can be massaged onto your own breasts while he watches. Enough should be applied to fill the skin and begin to disappear. Then apply the normal massage oil either your-self or allow him to. The effect is amazingly slippery and good fun to do. It is also good fun to do on his dick just before the ending. For your private pleasure a similar sensation can be found using a double layer of silk or satin on your breasts or clit.
APPENDIX C:
A person in the face down position in the presence of another is in an altered state of consciousness to a small degree. Most of the senses are disorientated while the sense of touch is strongly more sensitive. This allows the masseuse to have a stronger level of control than she would have if the client were sitting up where his defence mechanisms are switched on with the senses of sight and hearing being more profound. Most of the time he will have his eyes closed. Continuous contact creates trust and will also allow him to drowse off.
APPENDIX D:
The program should be to have the massage start out as mostly technically and during the procedure have it gradually become quite sexy until the conclusion is a blinding moment of passion. This slow movement from benign to lustful will entertain him quite well.
In the event that the massage is boring and not entertaining he will set about to entertain himself using your nakedness and sexuality to make himself as hard as he can. Groping you tits and trying to touch you privately is an indication that the massage is not going well or . . . it could be that he is perhaps not very polite. A man’s thinking changes when he has a hard-on. He wants to have the woman to help him to have the internal strength to be more hard for his ejaculation. This is what you are aiming to do for him. An ejaculation can be achieved even if his dick in a less than hard state but it is not of any value. He will try to touch your tits or other parts as he knows that even if you don’t like him your sexual nakedness is enough to get him going and help him to get to a happy ending. He is accustomed to taking what he can from the women he has or had relationships with. He thinks anything is better than being bored to death by a non-caring massage. So, learn this stuff and you will be able to keep him in your control and blow his brains out.
Give him what he needs and not what he wants! In a controlled environment such as Kings Court, the client, whether he knows it or not, needs the structure of “no sex” to create a very intense build up to a great result. He may want sex but what he really needs is the powerful ending that a good hand-job can give him. Give him a choice and he will wrongly choose sex. If you are massaging your boyfriend or husband they usually demand to have sex part the way through and the true climax by hand is subverted to having sex, which is not the destination we are travelling towards in this exercise and you will have to do it again on another day.
Another diversion could be that he asks to be able to massage you. No benefit can be gained from allowing him to massage you in the hope of getting you turned on for real sex. He has spent his money and you have allowed him to think there is a chance to seduce you. He is bound to have disappointment enough to complain about. We hear clients telling their mates on the way out, “F*cking bitch, I massaged her for an hour and she didn’t give me a root.” He could be leaving and saying, “That was a great experience. It was better than sex!!” The masseuse should not have been lazy and should have taken the courage to only give him what he needed. You can say, “Don’t whinge about what you are not getting and enjoy what you are getting.” Or “I love to massage but you are spoiling it!”
APPENDIX E:
When you lean over and your tits are on his back and he will be wondering if this is by accident or intentional. Again you are creating thoughts and imagination. I once experienced a masseuse who as part of her routine move my arm in such a way that it collided with first one nipple and then the other, clearly not by accident. I distinctly recall this having a negative effect, as it was far from subtle and lowered my respect value of the masseuse. It is important for a man to have sexual respect in order to be able to successfully have a strong erection. An example of this would be that if a man could touch the nipple of a virgin princess he would have a bigger stronger erection than he would get from having free sex with any woman. This big strong erection is the subject of this essay on doing a worthwhile massage. If you as a woman can achieve the strongest result of a strong erection and a mind blowing ejaculation you will own the man whether he is a customer or husband or boyfriend. When you own a man he stops bothering to wander away looking for another woman. He will only think of you. Nature lies to male mammals to get them to keep looking for another mate so as to spread their seed. Nature says, “I promise you that if you get another one your dick will be harder and the orgasm will be better just because she is new.” This is not actually the case as in our semi-civilised world the first root is usually not as good as it could be when we have more experience with that partner.
Supplementary Notes:
Some masseuses will help the client to shower in the beginning so as to extend the entertainment and the added benefit of this is that you know his back and legs are really soaped up and clean. Some ladies will also help him on with his shirt. Did you know that buttons on men’s shirts are on the opposite side to a ladies bloouse so that women can dress men.
Here is an important caveat on all of this; Do not use the above information on someone you are thinking of finishing with! He will be so impressed that you will have trouble ending it.
For men; do not go out with massage girls no matter how much you think it will be a good thing! Kings girls usually haven’t have worked anywhere else. They are the girl-next-door that you could see any day in the real world. Some of them are so beautiful and sweet that you could marry one or at least have her as a girlfriend. Be thoughtful about this as there is one problem in the long term. Close relationships always have moments of disagreement. During the heat of such a flare-up either the man or the woman will refer to how the relationship began, “Look where I found you!” After the argument is over it is too late for repairs to the relationship as it will have been poisoned permanently. This is always bound to happen, so do not go out with massage girls.
The wise man would enjoy Kings Court and go away enriched by the restrained experience and then be able to come again another day.
These notes are from the life experience of Big John Bye for now